She Said I Looked Nice in Red. I Cried.

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Darkness is Always Followed by Light

As the opens in a new windowWendy’s drive-thru clerk handed me my small cup of chili and Diet Coke, she smiled and said, “You look nice in red.”

I cried.

It was the kindest thing anyone had said to me in the last 48 hours. I’m sure she had no idea two days earlier my heart was crushed (again) by a man I had been involved with for the past three-something years. At forty-something years old, I never thought I’d still be crying over boys but it’s just what I had been doing after being told he found the love of his life and it wasn’t me.

Is There a Logical Reason?

My mind had been swirling with thoughts of, opens in a new window“What’s wrong with me?” and “What did I do wrong?” trying to find a logical reason but when that Wendy’s clerk said those simple words, she put my situation and life in perspective. She made my day a whole lot brighter and gave me hope. When things seem a little dark, just wait and the light will shine through. Even if I never find love again, I’m living a good and blessed life.

I’m sharing this story because last night I learned a friend from college took her life earlier in the week. She was married to a great guy, loved her rescued greyhounds and SCUBA adventures, and they lived comfortably. I knew she had struggled with job loss but had no idea about her other internal battles and the pain she had suffered.

I wonder if things would be different if someone had made a small gesture of kindness toward her that day.

You Light Up My Life

In my everyday life whether in my town or traveling, I do my best to treat others kindly, no matter what they do or what title they have. I do my best to smile, sincerely say “thank you,” and show appreciation for that person. I have a Postcard of the Month Clubto share my travel experiences with others on a personal level beyond blogging but admittedly, there’s room for improvement. My goal this year is to focus on what I have rather than what I don’t and what small things I can do to improve the quality of life for others.

So tell me, what do you do to make someone’s life a little brighter?

Following are a few resources and inspiration for doing good:

Organizations

opens in a new window26 Acts of Kindness – Inspired by journalist Ann Curry following the Newtown Shooting

opens in a new windowThe Random Acts of Kindness Foundation – Random Acts of Kindness Week is Feb. 11-17, 2013

opens in a new windowValues.com – The Foundation for a Better Life

opens in a new windowPassport Party Project – philanthropic initiative that will travel the nation and gift 100 underserved girls with their very first passports sponsored by Expedia

Inspiring Articles

opens in a new windowPregnant Mom Surprised by Eatery’s Act of Kindness – Nice going Red Robbin!

opens in a new windowRandom Acts of Kindness – by fellow blogger Jenn Jones-Perry of opens in a new windowDazeofAdventure.com

opens in a new windowTim Hortons Customers Pay it Forward – for Three Hours

Suicide Prevention

For suicide prevention, contact the opens in a new windowNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline ( opens in a new windowwww.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) at 1-800-273-8255, available 24 hours a day.

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Author: Solo Travel Girl Admin

Jennifer A. Huber is an award-winning travel and outdoor blogger and writer in Southwest Florida. Originally from Buffalo, N.Y., a hiking trail led her to a career path in the tourism industry for more than 30 years. She spent a decade with a park management company in Yellowstone, Death Valley, and Everglades National Parks. She founded the travel blog, SoloTravelGirl.com with the goal of inspiring others to travel alone, not lonely. The unexpected death of her former husband in 2008 reminded her how short life is. His passing was a catalyst for sharing her experiences with the goal of inspiring and empowering others to travel solo. Jennifer holds a Travel Marketing Professional certification from the Southeast Tourism Society, is a certified food judge, member of the NASA Social community, and alum of the FBI Citizens Academy. When not traveling, she is either in the kitchen, practicing her photography skills, or road tripping with her dog, Radcliff.

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  1. I maintain a Facebook page to honor the memory of a former colleague who drowned a few years back. “Shea It Forward” is where we try to honor Lisa’s memory by inspiring readers to commit “random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty”. I find that people don’t like to “brag” about their random acts, so I don’t expect a lot of participation – just try to post things that will encourage actions, however big or small. Please drop by if you’re so inclined https://www.facebook.com/SheaItForward

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